Dating someone 12 step program
Whether you are single and getting sober, or recovery is a part of your relationship, here are some tips to help you date smarter and safer. A therapeutic environment is a necessity for learning more functional patterns of behavior and gaining insight into the origins of your disease.
In therapy, you will work on assessing readiness, especially for the dating game.
It took years of bad decisions, heartbreak and, ultimately, hard work on myself before I was relationship material.
I met my husband seven years ago at a 12-step service meeting and we’ve been together ever since.
You can tell them, “I’ve been in six rehabs, four psych wards, and I’ve been arrested for assault.” And, they’re like, “Of course you have.” The downside is that they, too, are often a ticking time bomb.
Natasha, an ex-pat who's been on the wagon for 10 years agrees.
And they have committed – in recovery and in life – to honesty and integrity and making decisions in accordance with their values.
While some people can easily relate to and embrace the fact that everyone has a past, others can find it hard to reconcile the two.
If you’ve decided to move forward with the relationship, here are some dos and don’ts that will make dating someone in recovery a lot easier for both of you.
In case you’re bad at math, this means I’ve spent half my recovery single and dating and the other half with the same person. I’m not saying I’m a great partner every day or some kind of expert, but I’ve learned a few things.
I’m happier today than I’ve ever been and I’m committed to staying that way—one day at a time.
The old “I’ve wrestled with my demons and won” line? How about a simple, “I’m a pretty hot colossal f**k up”?